The early bird alarm clock: A divine invitation to defend your inner territory


A Contributor Piece written for the Redbud Hyphen. Read the full article HERE.


Summer nights called for open windows and cool breezes, a welcome change. But the dawn chorus at 5:30 am? Not so much. Those feathered serenades often led to desperate window shutdowns in a bid for more sleep.

But over time, the birds' persistent chirping transformed from annoyance to intrigue. Their early morning song, I learned, was a territorial defense tactic. This sparked a powerful realization: I too needed to defend my territory—my mind, heart, and soul.

The link between my morning mindset and the rest of my day became undeniable. When I began the day overwhelmed by challenges, my perspective narrowed, impacting everything I encountered.

Those early morning birds, in a way, woke me from a deeper slumber—a passive state that kept me stuck and reactive. Defending my inner territory goes beyond just a good morning routine. It's about staying alert to distractions that lull me back into a passive state, making me vulnerable to negativity.

Distractions of any kind constantly work to deceive us from ourselves. The rumblings and aches in our souls surface when we quiet down. But noticing these internal whispers can be uncomfortable, even scary at times. So we reach for distractions—the newsfeed, that one more episode, the endless scroll—to avoid facing what lies beneath the surface. We must be willing to ask ourselves this critical question: "What kind of life are we living if we never know what is happening on the inside of us?"

We owe it to ourselves to pay attention to what is distracting us. What are the indicators pushing and pulling for our focused energy? Is it the next news article, often filled with negativity and anxiety, or just one more scroll through social media, comparing our lives to unrealistic portrayals of perfection? Is it the pursuit of the perfect body, an airbrushed image in a magazine, or the perfect house, a picture on a website? These distractions will never satisfy. They are, in fact, symptoms of deeper issues in the root systems of our soul.

There is something to be discovered beneath our distractions.

They are pointing us to the doorway leading to our interior selves. Perhaps it's a nagging feeling of discontent, a yearning for something more fulfilling. Maybe it's a fear of inadequacy or a dream that feels out of reach. Ignoring these whispers keeps us stuck in a cycle of busyness and emptiness.

Walking through the doorway to our inner selves is the first step toward healing and wholeness. But like any important journey, it requires wisdom and a trusted companion. We are not meant to travel this road alone.

The Holy Spirit guides on this inward odyssey. Imagine the Holy Spirit as a gentle light illuminating the path ahead, removing obstacles and casting aside shadows of doubt. This journey is not predictable or straightforward. The terrain will be unique for each of us, with winding paths, hidden valleys, and even mountains to climb. But with the Holy Spirit by our side, we can navigate the twists and turns with courage and trust.

Today, the invitation is to begin by turning off distractions and turning on our souls' awareness. Here are five strategies to fortify your inner territory:

Simplify 

The information age's noise is deafening. The constant pursuit of "catching up" with the latest news or trends creates a false sense of security and control. Imagine the space that would open up if we quieted the external noise, allowing us to confront what lies beneath the surface. Start by setting boundaries around your information consumption. Maybe designate specific times to check the news or social media, and stick to those limits. Disconnect for periods throughout the day and rediscover the quiet. In the stillness, you might be surprised by what emerges from within.

Listen 

When the external noise subsides, the internal noise emerges. Pay attention to the rumblings in your mind and the aches in your heart. What unmet longings are revealed? What fears need addressing? What dreams yearn to be released? With the Holy Spirit's guidance, listen to the whispers of your inner self, ready to be healed and unleashed.

Journal 

Journaling can be a powerful tool for self-discovery. Take some time each day, even if it's just a few minutes, to write down your thoughts and feelings. Don't worry about grammar or spelling; just let the words flow freely. As you write, patterns may emerge, and you may begin to identify areas that need attention.

Meditate 

Meditation can help you quiet the external noise and connect with your inner self. Find a quiet place where you can sit comfortably and focus on your breath. Allow your thoughts to come and go without judgment. With practice, meditation can become a powerful tool for self-awareness and inner peace.

Respond

Our response matters. What we do with these newfound revelations is crucial. We serve a loving God who sees, hears, and knows us completely. His love is unwavering, regardless of our actions or words. The absence of distractions allows us to strengthen our connection with Him. Prayer is honest communication with God, revealing the true state of our hearts. What if the distractions are preventing us from hearing the most important voice in our lives?

As the psalmist declares, "Because he bends down to listen, I will pray as long as I have breath" (Psalm 116:2, NLT). Let's respond to God's love with open hearts and a commitment to uncovering the treasures within.

Navigating Leadership’s Grand Canyon: The Art of Setting Boundaries for the Soul


Contributor piece for Ministry Spark Blog. Read the full article HERE


The Grand Canyon is considered one of the seven wonders of the world. If you haven’t visited yet, it’s worth a trip. My family and I visited there over a decade ago. The beauty of the place is so expansive and awe-inspiring. It draws you in, urging you to see as much as possible. I remember feeling curious as I stepped onto an overlook platform with my husband and four children.

My youngest daughter was still strapped to my chest in a baby carrier, while my five-year-old twin girls and my three-year-old son were eager to explore the place. They made their way to the end of the platform to look out over the Canyon through the plexiglass barrier.

A sense of wonder and fear overtook me.

The act of intentionally setting boundaries provides safety for the soul.

I was grateful for the barrier that kept us safe and out of harm’s way. In the vast beauty of the Grand Canyon, we can find an allegory for the leadership journey. Just as the Canyon has protective barriers, our souls require intentional boundaries to guide us toward peace, embrace possibility, and protect us from overextension.

Setting Boundaries: Finding Peace

The Grand Canyon’s protective barriers and our soul’s intentional boundaries are closely correlated. Deliberately setting limits in our leadership roles becomes an act of self-preservation and creates room for peace. Just as the Canyon’s boundaries shield us from the dangers of its majestic depths. Imagine this: the massive and breathtaking Canyon, a canvas of natural artistry, drawing you in, much like the allure of leading in ministry.

I remember the moment I was on the platform, with my youngest daughter strapped to my chest and my other children eagerly peering through the plexiglass. I felt a blend of curiosity and caution. Being a leader is like a dance between exploring the possibilities and respecting the limitations.

The act of intentionally setting boundaries provides safety for the soul.

As leaders, it is within these boundaries that we can take a moment to pause, reflect, and appreciate the beauty of our purpose without fear of overextension. The peace that comes from these limits is not an absence of challenges but instead a harmonious coexistence with them.

Embracing Possibility Without Overextension

The allure of possibility is powerful. The extensive wilderness of the Grand Canyon extends an invitation to explore it. However, the plexiglass boundaries, metal railings, and paths serve as gentle guides, preventing visitors from venturing too close to the cliff’s edge, much like the boundaries we set for our souls prevent us from venturing too close to the edge of exhaustion.

There is a healthy balance between curiosity and limitation. It fosters an environment where leaders can nurture their desire for exploration while still respecting their capacities. Leadership sets the tone for a community. Creating an environment that inspires growth while acknowledging the need for rest and renewal is important.

In establishing clear boundaries for our souls, we create a healthy model and lead with compassion that enables our teams to thrive without succumbing to the pressures of overextension.

Protection: Setting Boundaries Ensures Safety and Security

Boundaries should not be restrictive, but protective. Reflecting on the moments when boundaries shielded my children at the Canyon, I recognize their vital role in safeguarding my life. Ignoring these limits jeopardizes our well-being and the well-being of the communities and people we serve.

Humans are wired to seek connections and build relationships with others. But, in doing so, it is easy to forget the importance of setting boundaries. Boundaries are the limits we establish to protect our physical, emotional, and mental well-being.

They serve as a means of protection for us and those around us. We must first acknowledge the purpose of boundaries to respect them.

Navigating Leadership with Boundaries: A Biblical Compass

Learning to love God, ourselves, and others in Matthew 22:37-39

Jesus replied: “‘Love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your mind. This is the first and greatest commandment. And the second is like it: ‘Love your neighbor as yourself.

Matthew 22:37-39

Matthew 22:37-39 is a compass guiding us in the right direction, reminding us of the interconnectedness of loving God, others, and ourselves. Loving ourselves, far from selfishness, is part of recognizing our inherent value as God’s creation.

By setting boundaries, leaders embody love for themselves, equipping them to authentically love God and serve others with a heart of abundance.

Finding Refuge in Psalm 16:5-8

Lord, you alone are my portion and my cup; you make my lot secure. The boundary lines have fallen for me in pleasant places; surely I have a delightful inheritance. I will praise the Lord, who counsels me; even at night my heart instructs me. I keep my eyes always on the Lord. With him at my right hand, I will not be shaken.

Psalm 16:5-8

Psalm 16 reminds us to acknowledge the Lord as our security source and find refuge in Him. As leaders, we carry a great responsibility that can be demanding at times, but by recognizing God as our portion and cup, we find assurance and peace.

When we learn to set healthy boundaries, we experience greater freedom, peace, and joy.

It’s incredible how boundaries can even allow us to praise God during difficulties and inherit unshakable strength. By keeping our eyes always on the Lord and allowing Him to guide us, we can become pillars of strength and stability and inspire those around us.

Proverbs 4:23 – Safeguarding the Heart of Leadership

Above all else, guard your heart, for everything you do flows from it.

Proverbs 4:23

Proverbs 4:23 urges leaders to place a high value on their well-being and establish boundaries to protect their hearts. This is a self-preserving act and a way to become an authentic and impactful leader.

In learning to guard their hearts, leaders shield themselves from harm and set a strong foundation for their leadership.

Establishing and respecting boundaries is a wise and loving way to navigate the complexities of leading. We all face challenges that exhaust us, both mentally and emotionally. That’s why it’s essential to set boundaries for our souls. It may sound counterintuitive, but setting limits can safeguard our well-being and give us the strength and wisdom to be healthy leaders.

If you’re feeling overwhelmed as a leader, it may be time to set some boundaries.

Remember that it’s not about being restrictive but rather about safeguarding your soul’s well-being and empowering you to navigate challenges with strength and endurance.